The Flame

Each week we send out an e-newsletter, the Flame. It includes a reflection by Cameron, brief articles by parish leaders, community announcements, and the parish prayer list. During this time of sheltering in place, we are also sharing a more frequent e-news, "the Spark," which features shorter reflections, reports, and resources. Past issues of both the Flame and Spark can be found here. If you would like to add someone to the prayer list for the Flame and the Sunday bulletins, please don’t hesitate to be in touch with the office. To ask for prayers from the Prayer Chain, please reach out to Lois Roach here.  


The Flame for Friday, November 25, 2022

Hello St. Aidan’s! On this Thanksgiving weekend, as I prepare to return this Sunday from sabbatical, I have so much gratitude for you. I’ve been cooking up a storm over the last several days (and actually, over the last several months), and yesterday the four of us sat down to a festive meal with my mom. We may be eating the leftovers for the next several weeks, there was so much! At one point my mom asked if there was a theme I’ve carried with me over the course of my sabbatical. I’ll share more about this on Sunday, but to slightly preview, my answer is presence. Presence particularly with my family, in less common things (like traveling) but especially in day-to-day things. Cooking was a major part of that – behold the aprons you gave Kateri and me, as donned yesterday! So too were school related activities – chaperoning for each of our kids’ class trips. Walking the neighborhood. Seeking restful routine. Reading. Writing. Conversation. Sleeping. I worked on writing projects as well, but even amid that ongoing work, the core of sabbatical—sabbath, rest – led me to an emphasis on presence.


Meanwhile, you have been on a journey these last several months, and I am so curious to hear more about it. I’ve kept up with the Flame and have enjoyed seeing the announcements about gardening days, the neighborhood Habitat project, the Regathering Committee and Vital & Thriving surveys. I’ve held you all in prayer these last several months, and as I return, I look forward to continuing that theme of presence with and among you all.


This Sunday is not only the turning of the lectionary (if not the beginning of Advent for us, since we practice a longer season), but also the in-gathering of our pledge cards. My family and I look forward to joining you in adding our card to the storied stoneware jar, with great gratitude for your presence in our lives.


We look forward to seeing you very soon.






Ingathering Sunday

Sunday, November 27th, will be our Stewardship Pledge Ingathering Sunday. We ask that you prayerfully consider making a 2023 Stewardship Intention. Bring your card to the church or send your pledge to


Hybrid In-Person/Zoom Worship Continues This Week

This week our worship will continue to be hybrid, with both in person and Zoom platforms available. We encourage you to connect to with worship in whatever way is comfortable and feels safest for you.


Updated Mask Policy:  After carefully considering survey input from parish members, as well as City and diocesan guidance and the current practices of other churches and public venues, the Regathering Committee has concluded that it is time to revise our mask policy.  Beginning Sunday, November 20, if you are fully vaccinated and are comfortable removing your mask, you may do so during church services.  We will respect the preference of anyone who feels safer by remaining masked.  In accordance with diocesan guidance, the celebrant will still be masked while consecrating and distributing the elements for the Eucharist.  We will also maintain a well-ventilated sanctuary by opening doors and windows, so remember to dress warmly as winter approaches.  We acknowledge that COVID is likely to be with us in some form for the foreseeable future, and we will be monitoring public health advisories.  Our mask policy be modified again as is appropriate.  Please pray for the health and safety of all our members and friends as we continue to navigate this challenging time.

Martin de Porres 2022

Thanks to the generosity of our congregation, clergy and friends, Lee and I delivered 42 fleece blankets and 159 pairs of socks to Martin de Porres House of Hospitality. There were also holiday dog biscuits, just because :)


Christmas Giving at Saint Aidan’s

Please join in our Christmas giving at St. Aidan’s.  This year we have two options (listed in order of when the gifts are due:)


Urban Angels Toy Drive for children in shelter in the Tenderloin neighborhood:

Our neighbor Urban Angels ( is sponsoring a toy drive for children in shelter throughout the city.  They have asked for our help in collecting gifts for children 6-12 years of age (an age group they find it difficult to identify donors for.)  We have committed to providing 35 gender neutral gifts for these age groupings:

15 gifts for children 6-8 years old

10 gifts for children 9-10 years old

10 gifts for children 11-12 years old.

Value of each gift should be in the $25-45 range.  Suggested items:  board games, legos, books, art supplies.  Please bring gifts, unwrapped, to St. Aidan’s by December 4th.  Deacon Margaret ( will have a clipboard and list at the church for sign-ups; please contact her with any questions.  If you would like to make a financial contribution, Margaret can purchase gifts on your behalf – just let her know.


SafeHouse Gift Card Drive

SafeHouse, an organization that empowers and supports women who are experiencing housing instability and sexual exploitation or trafficking ( is well known to St. Aidan’s.  We are again collecting gift cards for the women of SafeHouse.  We have committed to 10 gift cards at the $60.00 level. Any extra money will be used to purchase cards for women who come to the drop in center and are in need. Susan Spencer will be collecting your donations, and she will purchase the gift cards with funds raised.  Please contact Susan with any questions –  Donations need to be to Susan by Sunday December 18.

Bishop Search Listening Sessions:  The Search and Transition Committee invites all members of the Diocese of California to share in a conversation about our hopes for the next bishop.  We want to hear what you believe the skills, qualities, and gifts our next bishop will have that will lead us forward in the next ten to fifteen years.  All the data will be compiled and compared to discern more clearly where the Holy Spirit is leading us in this critical work.  If you were not able to attend the San Francisco session, you can attend any of the other Listening Sessions scheduled around the diocese.  For more information, go to Diocesan Listening Sessions Announced | The Episcopal Diocese of California Bishop Search (


St. Aidan’s Gourmet Book Group - Next Date:  Monday, November 28, 7pm

We will continue to meet via zoom with LeeAnn DeSalles serving as our zoom master. She has set up a zoom link that will serve for all our meetings. If you would like help with zoom, please contact LeeAnn at If you would like to join the Book Group, please contact


Monday, November 28, 2022 7:00 – 9:00 p.m.

Fierce Attachments – Vivian Gormick (181 pages) An unsparing,  deeply courageous memoir about the author’s lifelong battle with her widowed mother for independence.


Good News Gardens – next date: December 3, 12:30 AM

On November 19th Lantana was planted in memory of Natalie Lloyd, and a plaque will be added soon.  Many thanks to Janet Lohr, Mileva Lewis and Betty Carmack who made it all possible. Also, we added plants at the Little Red Hen garden thanks to Charlie Mader. Please join us! Question?  Contact Deacon Margaret (


Natalie Lloyd

A memorial/celebration of life service will take place on December 4 at 2:30 pm at St. Aidan's.


Music on the Hill: Sunday, December 4, 2022 at 7:30 PM: The Town Quartet with guest composer/ violinist Alisa Rose

Please join us for our Second Concert of the Season.

Ilana Thomas & Michèle  Walther, violins

Jacob Hansen-Joseph, viola

Lewis Patzner, cello

Alisa Rose, guest violin/composer

The program includes Embracing Roots by Bay Area composer Alisa Rose, Inverno Porteno  and Four For Tango by Astor Piazzolla, Quartet #3; Sostenuto - Like a Folk Tune by Erich Korngold, and La Follia by Corelli. 

Tickets will be sold online for $20 each. To purchase tickets for this Town Quartet concert click here:

Individual tickets and season tickets can also be purchased at the door. 


Men's Group - Saturday, December 10, 9-10:30 am, via Zoom. 

We will connect for prayer, study and fellowship.  All men are cordially invited.  If you haven’t received connection information by December 8, contact Dave Frangquist (  Please note that the Men’s Group has switched to the second Saturday of the month this year.


New Habitat for Humanity Date – Saturday Dec. 17, 8:30 – 4:00 pm

We have a new Habitat date at the Amber Drive site in Diamond Heights – we’ve had a great time each Saturday we’ve participated and all are welcome – there’s a job for everyone!  Contact Deacon Margaret ( or 650-619-0781) if you would like to sign up - she will inform you about the Habitat on-line sign up process


Next New Jim Crow Anti-Racist book group meeting - January 8, 4 pm

We’re reading Her Honor by LaDoris Cordell.  All are welcome – please contact Deacon Margaret for the Zoom link.  (

Resources for Engaging in Anti-Racism, from Elena Wong
Thank you to Elena Wong for sharing this list of resources that were in turn shared with her through her membership in the Western Association for College Counseling:

Resources on talking to young kids about race and racism
The 1619 Project (all the articles) | The New York Times Magazine
“Who Gets to Be Afraid in America?” by Dr. Ibram X. Kendi | Atlantic (May 12, 2020)

LISTEN (Podcasts to subscribe to)
1619 (New York Times)
Code Switch (NPR)
Seeing White Series on Scene On Radio

13th Film (2 hours)
When They See Us (Four episodes)

Color of Change
Southern Poverty Law Center

Groups and people doing anti-racist work, such as @colorofchange @weinspirejustice @showingupforracialjustice

Please send in your recipes for the COVID Connect Cookbook!
As shared in previous weeks, Peter Fairfield and Linnea Sweet are putting together the COVID Connect Cookbook. He's received several recipes thus far but would very much like more. He writes:

We are living through a time that will change our world in ways that we cannot yet begin to understand. We can hope that our shared vulnerability to this virus worldwide will help us see that all humanity is connected and that we must all work together. As we shelter in place, many of us are concerned with food. If we are not working, how will we afford it? If we cannot go out, how will we get it?

In our community of Saint Aidan’s, many are able to feed themselves and to help others get fed. More than that, we appreciate the food that we get and are finding new ways of making the sharing of food as enjoyable as possible.

The soup recipes that Cameron has been sharing have made our diet much more enjoyable and have given Linnea and I the inspiration to collect recipes from all the congregation and share them. We ask that everyone with a favorite recipe email it to us at We will collect and edit them into a cookbook which will be a lasting reminder of this strange and special time in all our lives.

We hope to be able to publish this cookbook in printed form and sell it to raise funds in support of Saint Aidan’s food ministries. We know you have been sharing food. Now please share your recipes!

Contemplative Prayer continues: Tuesday, Thursday, & Saturday from 9-10 AM via Zoom
Contemplative prayer continues during this time of sheltering in place, via Zoom. Contemplative Prayer is silent with the beginning and ending marked by a bell. You can practice meditation, silent prayer, journal, or otherwise enjoy the collective quiet. Thank you to Susan Spencer for offering to anchor this practice once again, especially the Saturday, during this time. Please feel free to reach out to the office for the Zoom access information:

Morning Prayer continues: Mon, Wed, Fri at 7:30 AM via Zoom
We also continue to have Morning Prayer to help sustain and ground us, online/over the phone!  Please feel free to reach out to the office for the Zoom access information:

Wednesday Evening Prayer will pause during August: Our in-coming CDSP Seminarian Weston Morris will resume the service on September 7, 2022.

To add an announcement to the weekly bulletin of the Flame, please send your edited text no later than 11:00 am Wednesday to